Rabbanit Yemima Mizrachi shiur -segula for shidduch
Wash and bench seven times Erev Yom Kippur
Listen to the moving words of Rabbi Yehonatan Eybeschutz:
לפני ערב יום כיפור, מתרבה מרה שחורה ובכיות בבתי ישראל, כי השטן – יש לו שליטה כל שי”ן סמ”ך דל”ת ימים, כמנין “דילי” ‐ Before Yom Kippur, melancholy and crying increase among Jewish households, because the Satan has control 364 days of the year, according to the g’matriya of his name. But the 365th day is Yom Kippur. On that day there’ no Satan and no evil inclination. That’s why he works so hard against us this time of year –he knows he’s about to disappear for a day.
ואז, יודע שביום הכיפרים אין לו שלטון ורוצה להשרות בעם ישראל מרה שחורה, לפני שפורש מהם, כי יודע שעיקר התשובה הוא להיות בשמחה ‐ For he knows that on Yom Kippur he has no control, and he wishes to cast upon Israel melancholy before he departs; for he knows the essence of T’shuva is to be happy. Such words. You’ll feel that fall. What do you do? If it weren’t Rabbi Yehonatan Eybeschutz, I don’t
know how I’d give you this Segula: Only eating a lot on Erev Yom Kippur removes the melancholy that the Satan wants to cause you. So eat as many meals as possible. Seven meals, according to the Kabbalists. I can’t describe how many e‐mails I got this year about that Segula. If there’s a Segula about which I can say, “It works!” it’s this one. Whoever eats seven meals on the day before Yom Kippur, may say as she eats them, “This is to correspond to the sheva brachot I’ll have this year.” Many women did this and got married. It’s a Segula. You don’t have to (so whoever wants to remain single – zai gesund…). But every class at which I said this in the past week, people have raised their hands and said, “Rabbanit, I did that and got married that year.” I’ve never seen a Segula for which I’ve gotten this much feedback and comments. It’s real. If you’re single and want to get married this year. If you’re the mother of single girls and want them to get married this year. If you want your sister to get married, and she won’t use this Segula, eat seven meals and have her in mind.
Seven meals on Erev Yom Kippur – how should they be eaten? It means seven times Netialt Yadayim and Birkat HaMazon. There’s no way around it… a suggestion ‐
take some bread with a little bit of spread or sandwich such as tuna – just an olive’s volume – eat it and say Birkat HaMazon.
כל האוכל בתשיעי כאילו צם בתשיעי ובעשירי ‐ Whoever eats on the ninth is as if he has fasted on the ninth and tenth of Tishrei.
An explicit passage in the Gemara. And you can start the night before. You can start the previous evening with two or three meals, and the following day you only have four more to do, including the final meal before the fast. Divide it up as you wish (and no, it doesn’t have to be tuna…) Seven meals, seven Brachot. By doing those seven meals properly you fix all of the forbidden eating you’ve done – eating without a Bracha, or without kosher certification. It fixes Adam’s sin, which was forbidden eating. It’s medicine for the evil inclination. Just trust me.
וסעודות אלה מתקנות יותר מתפילות ‐ These meals fix more than the prayers so promises the Matteh Aharon.
[Rabbi Yehonatan Eybeschutz, Yaarot]
– D’Rabbanit Yemima Mizrachi